don't have a hard time making friends. I don't. I don't.
Okay. Maybe I do?
I was discussing this with both Andrea and Sean on separate occasions.
I even asked Sean one night, after staring at my computer for an hour
after coming home from work, "What did I do
every night?!?" And he answered, "You were neverhome."
First, we have no TV because it requires cable even for local channels,
and I'll be damned if we pay $60 a month for TV. So we watch Sean's
Star Trek the Next Generation DVDs or movie DVDs. Which is okay, I
guess, but West Wing! ER! What will I do?
I also realized, as discussed with Andrea, that my social life in
Seattle was definitely something I eventually took for granted. I
could be at a Blogger Meetup at 11 p.m. and say "Hot Chocolate
at my place!" and twelve people would show up. I would simply
buy a gallon of milk on the way to my place, and by the time I got
there Sean would be welcoming everyone (unbeknownst to him that they
would all be showing up - funny). Then I'd whip out a giant stock
pot of hot chocolate and serve it in any of my twenty mugs, and there
we would sit and chat, in our big front room.
my date, Sean
I miss the Six Arms architects,
too. It took nothing to plan a party and just assume that twenty people
would easily show up. And between all of the birthdays and architect registrations
and weddings and babies, there was always something coming up.
I know there are friends to be made here. I know there are clubs and local
bands and gigs. But it's now that I'm realizing just how much time and effort
I put into it in Seattle. Years of many, many late-night gigs and Six Arms
and Blogger Meetups and parties and.... do I want to start it all again?
In this tiny apartment? On the far-west-end of town? With NO TV?
I'm not lonely or sad, I don't think. Thankfully the house and the jobs
lined up much better than we ever could have hoped for. But as the dark,
cold, rainy days approach, I hope there's.... more. I just need
to figure out what the more is going to be.
I'm baking almost every night. With the job and the landlords upstairs,
there's plenty of people to bake for. As a matter of fact, the landlords
just brought us a bottle of wine, some Russian bread, and a bunch of eggs
and margarine for baking! But even baking every night isn't social enough
I guess I'm just saying that I now realize how much I had in Seattle as
far as friends and neighbors. And I know it's gonna take a lot of time and
work to feel that... supported.... all around me again.
I've also noticed something about the people here - they aren't as "in
your face". They are more politely reserved. They don't smile a huge
smile or laugh quite as loud, and to me, it makes me feel like it takes
a bit longer to just "make friends." They are totally NOT serious
or pompous, they are just more.... gradual. And it makes me
shy, because I'm trying not to be too Americanforward.
Plus everything here is new to me. I mean, job and house and neighborhood,
and I'm still feeling things out. I'm thankful for the friends I already
have here - if it weren't for them I think I would be lonely or
sad. And I'm thankful that Sean has calmed me as I paced the house saying
"What did I do every night?" and then he'd help me bake
something. But... there's gotta be more than coming home and wishing I had
Vancouver Blogger Meetups? Stitch-n-Bitch groups? Something?
the left are Dario and Ryan - two of my three bosses. David is not
pictured because he met us at the restaurant that these guys are walking
My job still rocks and there's tons to do. We had a meeting
Thursday with our accountant and now my head is swimming in spreadsheets
to compile. I also met two developers that joined us this week.
night we had Shane and Katie over for a game of Settlers and I made
my chocolate chip cookie bars. I thought I was going to spend the
day on Granville today, but instead I did a major grocery shopping
trip and loafed around.
I'm still adjusting to the groceries here. A couple of times I wanted
to take pictures, but it's Saturday and the store was packed and I'm
not as self-assured here yet. Yet. You'll get your funny
grocery pictures soon enough. You wouldn't believe the shelf-space
dedication to gravy here. And every time I've been to my
local Starbucks I've been dismayed by it's condition. The place is
trashed every time. They are not doing their "ten minute
lobbies" and I've been tempted to take pictures and document
them and send them to Starbucks (I'm a shareholder, dammit).
(Estella! Call me!)
know I know... I'm still adjusting to it myself. The plain jane haircut
was just starting to match with my t-shirts and sneakers. But Ashley
at the salon next door to my work offered me a free haircut, so I
figured what the hey. And at least she didn't give me a super-short
cut. With some practice I can make it flippy like she did. Only I'm
lazy. So I probably won't.
Tonight a storm is rolling in. We are noticing how much "stronger"
the weather can be next to the water.
night I got about four hours of sleep because Sean & I had an
argument that started at 3 a.m. Waking me up from a very
comfy sleep. And he slept through the majority of the argument too.
This is the life when you live with someone who sleepwalks, sleeptalks,
and then denies that they're still dreaming, while they're still
in the dream. Just when I thought he was awake, he'd say something
totally off the wall again and I'd yell "You're STILL asleep?!"
It was bizarre.
I ended up on the couch,
and he ended up freshly awake and totally confused.
Nobody complained about dinner
night we had Andrea,
Yael, Birgitte, and MJ
over for tuna
casserole and Kung
Fu Hustle, which I've seen so many times now, I can now repeat
some of the lines. IN CHINESE.
Today I didn't work, so I walked around 10th Avenue dreaming about
all the restaurants I will try in the future. While there, I forgot
to buy vitamin C for Sean, which was my ONE GOAL for the day. And
there's a vitamin store on 10th. I may head back out soon,
after finishing the mound of dishes, because I don't want to catch
P.S. We thought KFH was not better with the voice-over translation.
09-05-05 Home Again Home Again
morning I made a quick trip to Pet Necessities for cat litter and
some frozen cat food (it was worth a shot - but they wanted nothing
of it). While there I met Mabel, and I should have asked what kind
of dog she is - she's huge! There were a couple other dogs in there
too - more pictures on Flickr.
We had a bit of a rough time at the border. Sean didn't bring his
U.S. Green Card because he was only visiting the U.S. for the day,
and since he was only visiting we figured it wouldn't be a problem
(he had his birth certificate). But once the guy asked for photo I.D.,
and all Sean had was his Washington State driver's license, all Hell
broke loose and we were ushered to the immigration office to be scolded
by agents. Sean can keep his Green Card for up to a year. We moved
here two weeks ago. Jerks.
barely had enough time to get ready for the wedding at Jon & Amy's
and headed out to Colman Park. The weather was perfect and the views
were spectacular. The Sam & Cathy's ceremony was beautiful and
the sincerity in Sam's voice when he said his vows made me cry. But
I cry at most weddings these days.
It was also a great reunion of sorts. I know we've only been gone
for two weeks, but it was interesting "visiting" our friends
in Seattle. I kept telling people to come visit us.
They were smiling
like this the entire night.
They've been dating for ELEVEN YEARS.
reception was held in the Seattle Central Library on the top floor.
It was incredible. Christine (dating Brian - so a Six Armser) catered
the reception, just as Jon & Amy's wedding. They had a great mix
of American and Middle Eastern food and a dessert table that had people
lining up and hovering 15 minutes before it could be served.
Do you guys remember Scott & Shin? Sean & I went to their
wedding two years ago - and I don't think I've seen them since
then. It was great to catch up, although while I was sitting at their
table talking to them, a bunch of my friends left for the night and
nobody could find me. Sean said he even went down to the car in the
parking garage to look for me!
So to those of you who
I missed - "Goodbye! See you next time!"
Late that night we got to
Dan & Maureen's and Nick and Seth were still up. We met their new
Pixie-Bob cats, Luther and Dauber (yes, from the TV show "Coach")
and finally passed out around one. They next morning Nick made breakfast
for everybody and we hung out for a few hours before driving.... to our
old house. I wanted to see if they had any questions, and to meet them.
Alas, they weren't home, but some of their friends were. They offered for
me to come inside and look around but I didn't. It's not my house anymore.
Every window was covered with closed blinds, so it looks so obvious
that we don't live there anymore. It was heartbreaking. I also saw that
I left my potted green pepper plant in the driveway in one of my favorite
striped pots that I had painted. The plants looked healthy. And it's not
like I could have grabbed it and said "Oh, this is mine. I'm taking
it." so I just left it there. The plants should be transplanted though.
There's three little plants in one pot.
We also visited Sylvia for a bit, which was bittersweet. I miss her. I miss
my old neighborhood. We drove up to Central Market for some American Groceries
(Nestle Tollhouse Morsels, our favorite tea [Estella
I grabbed a bag for you], Jiffy corn muffin mix, and Eagle Borden Sweetened
Condensed Milk [a necessity for Hello Dollies]). After that Sean drove all
the way home.
There are many,
many wedding and reception pictures on Flickr.
Sam & Cathy
off to Seattle, briefly, for Sam & Cathy's wedding! We'll be staying
with our old landlords, Dan & Maureen (and their sons, Nick &
Seth). I will report back when we get home.
My first five days at work were splendid. There was a lot to organize
and move around. We moved into the work loft right next door for more
space. A brand new empty kitchen!! We still have the view and the
deck, but now there's space for 8-10 of us. Thursday David & I
went to IKEA (again! I've memorized the location of EVERYTHING) and
bought some desks and drawers and lamps, then Friday we finished putting
it all together, as well as assembling three new office chairs, on
which it took me three attempts to assemble correctly. After I screwed
it up the second time, I said "So how's my probation
period going?" while David was laughing at me.
Now I'm on a search for cheap kitchen supplies and bakeware that doesn't
break the budget, yet still gives me the opportunity to, say, whip
out a batch of cookies on a cloudy afternoon. Because really. It should
be in my job description.
And I've added some pictures from the past couple days....